Since I travel for my work and my average commute is about an hour long, I’ve recently really gotten into Podcasts. Some day I’ll post my current list of favorites, but one I just listened to yesterday was from Ben Bergeron who I feel like I could listen to all day. I’ve also started reading his wife’s blog: HB Unfiltered, which is what gave me the little push and inspiration to get this restarted again.
The title of the Podcast was appropriate: How to Chase Happiness. If you have 30 minutes, I would highly suggest that you take the time to do so. I won’t summarize the whole podcast, because what would be the point of you then listening to it?
Suffice it to say that the three key components to happiness really struck a cord with me, especially the first one which is all about your mindset. Now keep in mind I also just read the book: Mindset, which goes into full detail the differences between the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. It’s another one that I definitely reccomend.
Back to the subject at hand. The first point of working towards happiness and shifting your overall mindset is changing your “have to’s” to “get to”. This is so simple, and seems so silly, but is literally so profound. Changing your mindset from a state of negativity to one of positivity can completely turn your world upside down.
I have to go to the gym…I get to go to the gym.
I have to go to work…I get to go to work.
I have to go grocery shopping…I get to go grocery shopping.
I have to cook dinner…I get to cook dinner.
How profound is it to change one simple world and turn what seems like a negative connotation to a positive one. When you look at your life with gratitude and as more of a blessing that you get the chance to do these things that many people around the world may never have the opportunity to do, it gives you some perspective.
For me, knowing that I GET to go to work and help sick patients on their worst day, in the worst amount of pain they’ve ever experienced, makes me appreciate my work that much more. Of course patients come in for complaints that we wish they would see an Urgent Care for or their Family doctor, but maybe they don’t know the difference between urgent and emergent, and they feel like their condition IS and emergency. How do I know? My job is to treat them with compassion and help them feel better and try to figure out what’s going on with them.
So this simple mental shift has given me a new perspective and a new feeling of positivity and appreciation in everything that I do. Try it out and see if it changes things for you.
The one thing I’m still trying to wrap my head around is how to deal with people who are consistently negative or who even try to bring you down. How do you interact with these people? How can you not let their negativity affect you and change your mindset and mood? These are the questions I’m trying to answer everyday.