Crossfit, My Soap Box., Operation Get the Fat off of my Body

Is Society Ready?

This post is definitely a soapbox post. I like to voice my opinions, what can I say.This is something that has been bothering me for a while, so I’m definitely ready to write about it.

My simple question is, is society ready?

Since joining crossfit, lifting, and picking up heavy weights I have noticed a definite opinion of women with strength.

Crossfit and lifting heavy tends to give you an “I don’t give a f***” attitude about a lot of things. It gives women a new attitude about their lives. It allows them to realize and see their true potential and strength. No one and no thing is going to tell them “no, you cannot do this.”

Before I started crossfit, I was back squatting 145lb as a struggle on my own. After crossfitting for 2 months, I recently back squatted 210 lb…more than some of the men at my gym. Back squatting 210 lbs and letting that bar drop the ground is a feeling I love and live off of. It tells my mind that I can do these things. I can lift as heavy as the boys. I am a boss.

On the other hand, crossfit and heavy lifting has opened my eyes to those who don’t like the idea of women lifting heavy. Of women lifting more than them, or of women being bosses.

Before I gave up social media, I couldn’t even count the number of times I saw men and women commenting on female Crossfitter’s/weight lifter pictures calling them “men”, “beasts” or telling them “they look too much like dudes.” The amount of times I read the words “gross”, “too muscular”, and “too manly” was unbelievable.

These are females, with unbelievable figures, and unmatched strength, who should be an inspiration to all and yet are being mocked and called names in a public forum.

Typical Crossfitter.

We all know that the amount of overweight people in the United States is unheard of. I’m tired of people being politically correct about it and saying “obese” or “bigger”. These people are not just obese, they are morbidly obese. The more I look around in the world, the more I see that the “overweight” are out numbering the “healthy weight” people. They will probably die because of their weight and medical conditions related to it. People need scooters to get around the grocery store, or Target or Walmart because their “knees hurt and they have arthritis”. Your knees hurt because you’re fat. The stress and strain you put on your legs with each step is tearing apart the little cartilage you have left in your knees.

I’m tired of tip-toeing around people who are obese, while the rest of society can make fun of fit people and crossfitters because we “talk about crossfit too much” or we’re “obsessed with it”.

We’re obsessed with it because we love it. I know that everyday that I go to crossfit or even just work out, I’m improving myself, mentally and physically. I know that every time an obese person finishes two hamburgers at Red Robin with 3 rounds of fries, they’re putting themselves closer to the path of death (I’ve literally seen this happen). And yet, they can sit there behind their computer screens and call women men or gross without one second of hesitation.

So my first questions is, is society ready to throw away the previous ideas of a “sexy female”?

Perfect example:

Since when is the LEFT more desired than the RIGHT?

The person on the left appears to eat nothing and is probably associated with some type of disordered eating. I can’t say for sure, but that’s speculation. The person on the right is probably “obsessed” with Crossfit or working out, again I can only speculate. Would it not be better to be obsessed with something healthy than not?

Just a thought.

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My second questions is then is, is society ready to accept “muscular females”?

Women who do cardio for 1 hour, 7 days a week think that lifting weights will make you “bulky”. This could not be farther from the truth.

I will not explain this in much detail because the amount of times I  have tried to explain it to people makes my head hurt. Women do not have enough testosterone to get “bulky” like men. Those body builders you see who have huge muscles as women and probably don’t really resemble women anymore take steroids. There is no other way to go about getting like that without taking steroids.

The average woman who lifts will never, ever be able to look like a man.


And lifting 5 lb dumbbells is going to do nothing for you. You want to tone? That’s not going to happen. That doesn’t exist in the realm of 5lb dumbbells.

Those females who are “toned” are that way because they have decreased their body fats. They do that through diet and lifting with minimal cardio.

So if you want to lose weight and “get toned” *insert eye roll* then pick up some heavy weight.

Recently I have been told by 2 family members that:

A. “You don’t want to get too bulky doing Crossfit”


B. “You’re looking awfully muscular…how far are you going to go with this.”

Have you ever thought that maybe muscular is what I was going for?

My goal through this journey is to lose fat. Do you know what happens when you lose fat? You get lean. When you get lean you see more muscle. When you see more muscle, you turn into a man and everyone starts freaking out.


I have been muscular and athletic for as long as I could remember. I’ve been fat once, and then lost a whole bunch of weight…including muscle and felt good about myself. Then I saw people who lifted weights and did crossfit. Those people who have 6 packs and amazing looking arms.

THEN after I started Crossfit, I knew that it was now something more than just looking good. I was lifting the heaviest I ever had and sometimes more than the guys. Now it was about being strong mentally and physically, as well as the benefits that come with lifting weight and HIIT training to the body. Then I began to see the calm that I got after doing a workout. How much more at peace I felt and more like myself I felt after completing a hard workout and leaving it all at the box.

When people tell me I’m getting “too bulky” or “I’m getting too muscular”, it really makes me sad. It really just punches me right in the face and says “all of your hard work still isn’t good enough.” People are going to continue to criticize me no matter what my body looks like. Although people won’t tell you when you’re fat. That’s shit is just rude and insulting. People will always compliment you when you’ve lost weight, but when you start to pack on the pounds, people just turn their heads the other way and let ya keep on putting them on.

BUT NOW, now anyone can tell a female that she’s too muscular. Can you tell a person that they’re too skinny?

I didn’t think so.

And yet we can always comment when someone is too “bulky”.

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So for my two questions:

Do I think society is ready to throw away the previous ideas of a “sexy female”?

Yes. People are starting to realize that the body of a model or Victoria’s Secret Angle is unattainable and sometimes sick. They see that health and muscle is real beauty. More females are catching on to this, but not enough.

Do I think society is ready to accept muscular females?

Absolutely not. There will always be obese people and un-motivated people with plenty of opinions to share. Crossfit and weight lifting are getting bigger, but we’re not there yet.

People will continue to call us obsessed and say that all we do is talk about Crossfit, but ask any of my friends and they will most likely tell you that I occasionally talk about it, but I usually don’t bring it up unless someone else wants to talk about it.

I talk about it on here a ton, because I like to track my workouts and consider this a personal journal.

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As for myself, I will continue to get “too bulky” and “too muscular”. I will continue to kick ass and back squat 260 at some point. I will get lean, and you will see more muscle, maybe a 4 pack, and people will freak out. I will probably be told that I look too muscular for my sister’s wedding (even though I’ve already cleared this with her).

I’m not going to stop doing something I love just because someone else doesn’t like the way I look. My health and my happiness both mentally and physically are more important than the opinions of a few people.

I love this lifestyle and will continue to do it until I look like Arnold Schwarzenegger. And maybe, just maybe, then I will reconsider my approach to fitness.

6 thoughts on “Is Society Ready?”

  1. Unfortunately, I don’t see society being ready either, though I wish it were. If girls were taught growing up that muscle tone was sexier than skinny, maybe the eating disorders wouldn’t be so prevelant. Just a thought?

    1. I agree with that, definitely. If young girls were taught that playing sports and having muscle wasn’t a terrible me gross thing and that eating to fuel your body is so important I think there might be a decrease in eating disorders and the way that people think about food.

  2. You don’t need to care if society is ready for muscular women. You’re ready for it, and that’s all that matters. Your job shouldn’t be to convince every single person that muscle tone and women mix. Just convince your immediate family and friends, by example. Think if every female crossfitter did that.

    It’s easy to smudge out a hateful comment with your chubby thumbs on your iPad while you demolish a plastic tub full of microwaved dinner. That’s weak.

    What takes real strength and courage is getting up an hour early to go to a crossfit class before a long day of work.

    Forget the armchair critics.

    Oh, and please get on your soapbox more often. I love posts like this!

  3. Thinking about it more, I think you’re right to shun the crossfit haters. There will always be plenty of people who don’t like muscular women, just like there are plenty of people that hate thin people.

    But don’t become a hater against overweight and obese people yourself. You’re sounding like the exact person you’re railing against in this article by putting down fat people, but from a different perspective. Fat people deal with a ton of abuse online.

    People that are overweight and people that hate crossfit are two groups that have some overlap, but it certainly isn’t everyone.

    Hating on anyone brings the conversation down. Keep it positive (unlike my previous comment) and focus on how great women look when they are muscular. Don’t put down another group to try to boost your cause. I think that turns you into the exact person you’re disagreeing with in this post.

    1. Thanks for both responses Kevin. Working in health care makes it difficult to sympathize with people when they know they can prevent diseases and death with weight loss, but you are correct. Me being rude towards the overweight society is the same as those people making fun of fit females. I like your insight, for sure and it gives a great perspective on it. And no worries, more soap box posts will come!

  4. Ohhhh, I love this! SO many good points in this post! I know what you mean about people tiptoeing around obesity, yet shaming skinny people. I deal with that all the time, and it really hurts. I can definitely see where you’re coming from with people making fun of muscular people. What is wrong with people these days with the judging?! CRAZY!

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