Do What You Want

Today my 5 Minute Journal quote at the top was this:

And I can’t help but think how much this really resonated with me this morning, and how much I needed to hear it as a reminder. So often when I get the chance at a day off, I constantly feel rushed and spent because it’s filled with things I “think” I should be doing like cleaning, working out, organizing, decluttering, shopping, running errands, and cooking. I feel like I should be constantly going-going-going.

And let’s not even talk about when I have things on my schedule like this last weekend; Friday night I worked 5p-3a. I slept until 11 am on Saturday and then we had bingo at the fire hall starting at 5pm. I can’t tell you how stressed/anxious/upset I was Thursday, Friday, and Saturday dreading the thought of having literally 5 hours to myself for “free time” to get all of this stuff done.

But thank God for my husband who is my saving grace. He doesn’t care if the bathroom hasn’t been cleaned in two weeks or if the kitchen is a hot mess. He made me coffee Saturday morning while I made breakfast (which is just our trade off…I’m better at breakfast than he is, especially when flipping eggs) and then for 2 hours we hung out on the couch and watched Fixer Upper. It’s out weekend jam and honestly, it’s quite amazing what those two hours can do for a girl’s soul.

I guess my point to all of this is that some things don’t matter. A clean house, a homemade meal, having all the laundry done, having everything neat an organized, having zero clutter – these things don’t matter in the grand scheme of life. Our minds are filled with how things should look via Pinterest, Facebook and Instagram and yet none of that matters. My life is not going to be any better or happier because my bathroom is spotless and clean every 3 days.

So today, on the first day of my vacation, I’m doing exactly what the quote in my journal is telling me to do; spend my free time the way I want to. I may still want to clean and organize a bit because it’s relaxing to me or I may want to sit on the couch and read a book all day. But all I can say is that I’m dropping the guilt of not having a perfectly clean and organized house, or a fresh cooked meal, and I’m enjoying my time the way I want to!

Weekend adventures

I spent my weekend recovering from my 2p-3a shift, which I had to stay late for but didn’t really mind because it was sooo busy. I slept until 12 pm Saturday and then Mike and I spent the afternoon running some errands and putting my coffee cup collection back on the wall. We decided to paint our kitchen and living room last weekend after we’ve been super lazy with house remodel projects and decided to take charge. Our old living room colors were brown and so dark:

Don’t mind the mess. I snapped these after we started getting ready to paint. We decided with two shades of grey but unfortunately they turned out a bit blue, but I still love it and how light everything feels now. 

Our next project is hopefully to refinish the cabinets white and then a lighter counter top. 

So we hung my coffee cup collection back up, which I love!

We spent the night at bingo after playing puppy sitter. 

My sister and Mike actually won bingo last night and we passed the time beforehand playing my favorite game Skip Bo.

Goose spent most of the weekend sunbathing as always. 

Today we went to mass at our church, cleaned our house and cut the grass and then switched my hard top for my soft top for spring!

It was actually a lot easier than we thought it was going to be. And now I can cruise around with the top off and enjoy the weather…best part about having a Jeep. 

Now we’re spending the evening watching the Master’s and having family dinner followed by game night and ice cream. Perfect weekend if you ask me!

I get to…

Since I travel for my work and my average commute is about an hour long, I’ve recently really gotten into Podcasts. Some day I’ll post my current list of favorites, but one I just listened to yesterday was from Ben Bergeron who I feel like I could listen to all day. I’ve also started reading his wife’s blog: HB Unfiltered, which is what gave me the little push and inspiration to get this restarted again. 

The title of the Podcast was appropriate: How to Chase Happiness. If you have 30 minutes, I would highly suggest that you take the time to do so. I won’t summarize the whole podcast, because what would be the point of you then listening to it?

Suffice it to say that the three key components to happiness really struck a cord with me, especially the first one which is all about your mindset. Now keep in mind I also just read the book: Mindset, which goes into full detail the differences between the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. It’s another one that I definitely reccomend. 

Back to the subject at hand. The first point of working towards happiness and shifting your overall mindset is changing your “have to’s” to “get to”. This is so simple, and seems so silly, but is literally so profound. Changing your mindset from a state of negativity to one of positivity can completely turn your world upside down. 

Instead of:

I have to go to the gym…I get to go to the gym. 

I have to go to work…I get to go to work. 

I have to go grocery shopping…I get to go grocery shopping. 

I have to cook dinner…I get to cook dinner. 

How profound is it to change one simple world and turn what seems like a negative connotation to a positive one. When you look at your life with gratitude and as more of a blessing that you get the chance to do these things that many people around the world may never have the opportunity to do, it gives you some perspective. 

For me, knowing that I GET to go to work and help sick patients on their worst day, in the worst amount of pain they’ve ever experienced, makes me appreciate my work that much more. Of course patients come in for complaints that we wish they would see an Urgent Care for or their Family doctor, but maybe they don’t know the difference between urgent and emergent, and they feel like their condition IS and emergency. How do I know? My job is to treat them with compassion and help them feel better and try to figure out what’s going on with them. 

So this simple mental shift has given me a new perspective and a new feeling of positivity and appreciation in everything that I do. Try it out and see if it changes things for you. 

The one thing I’m still trying to wrap my head around is how to deal with people who are consistently negative or who even try to bring you down. How do you interact with these people? How can you not let their negativity affect you and change your mindset and mood? These are the questions I’m trying to answer everyday.